Using the Sportsheets Ember Strap On Harness is a piece of cake. First, adjust the 4 - way adjustable straps to fit your hips. It can fit up to 60 inches, so you should be able to find a comfortable fit. Next, take a dildo with a flared base. Use the 1.5 - inch (3.8 cm) interchangeable rubber O - ring to attach the dildo to the harness. Once it's on, you're all set to have fun. As for maintenance, keep it in a cool, dry place. You can gently clean it with a mild soap and water when it gets dirty. Just make sure it's completely dry before storing it again. And remember, always use it in a safe and consensual way. Enjoy your new adventures with the harness!