Using the Tantus Super Soft Destiny Dildo is easy. First, make sure to use a good quality water - based lubricant to enhance comfort and reduce friction. You can insert it slowly, adjusting the pace according to your comfort level. Focus on the ridged head to target your g - spot or p - spot for more intense pleasure. Since it's harness - compatible, you can use it with a harness for different positions and play styles. When it comes to cleaning, wash it with mild soap and warm water after each use. Avoid using harsh chemicals or abrasive materials as they can damage the silicone. Let it dry completely before storing it in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. This will keep your dildo in good condition and ready for your next adventure.